*Disclaimer: Small trigger warning as this post mentions Postpartum Depression (PPD).
Keely shares her heartfelt experience of overcoming initial challenges in motherhood. From struggling to bond immediately with her baby to discovering a supportive village, Keely's story resonates with authenticity and relatability. She encourages mothers to trust their instincts, make choices without judgment, and prioritize self-care. Keely's journey serves as a reminder that every path in motherhood is unique, and through honesty and love, we can navigate the highs and lows with strength.
What is the most challenging part of your motherhood journey so far? and how did you cope with it?
I will admit that I was a bit anxious to answer this question, as I felt SO alone in the first few weeks when I was feeling this way.
The most challenging part for me, was not bonding with my baby immediately like you see on Instagram and TV. I loved him the second he entered the world, but I didn't feel that immediate, life changing connection straightaway and I felt like the absolute worst human in the world. People would say to me 'how beautiful were those first few moments when he was on your chest' or 'you must just stare at him all day with so much love' and I would just nod and agree while knowing that I didn't feel that way at all. I felt exhausted, overwhelmed and guilty, whilst also trying to recover physically and mentally from birth.
This really contributed to post partum blues/depression for me, and I struggled immensely with these feelings. I was so scared to admit this to my partner and best friend but I am so grateful that I did as they supported me, validated my feelings and let me know that I was not alone.
Coping with these feelings was hard and it also came with a huge feeling of guilt, but hearing other mums that felt the same way as I did was a HUGE relief.
It took me about 2 months to bond properly with my baby, and I still feel guilty to this day but he is thriving and I couldn't be more in love with my little bestie.
What has been the most rewarding part of your motherhood journey so far? How has it impacted your life?
There are so many rewarding aspects to being a mum, from watching him learn, grow and play to being there to witness all his 'firsts'. Being SO proud of the little human I created, and watching him thrive.
One of the most rewarding parts is the joy that our little man brings our families. He is the first grand baby on both sides and seeing how happy he makes our families, is so rewarding. I love watching him build relationships with his grandparents, aunties and uncles and I love how much they love him.
It really does take a village and we are SO damn lucky to have the best village beside us.
What advice would you give to a new mum or wish someone had told you before you became a mum?
DO WHAT IS BEST FOR YOU AND YOUR FAMILY.
If that means co sleeping, do it. Formula feeding, do it. Returning to work whenever you feel like it, do it.
Don't let other opinions sway the way that you parent, do what feels right for you.
Lean on your village, accept the help if you need it and take care of yourself mumma. No matter what your choices are, your baby will be loved and that's all that matters.